Find Your Voice, Change the World (Giveaway!)
We’re celebrating the launch of Moods of Motherhood by giving away three copies! Enjoy this beautiful guest post from author Lucy Pearce – and leave a comment below in order to enter our giveaway contest. Three winners will be selected at 10:00 pm eastern time Saturday, December 6, 2014. Good luck!
As a new mother I was told how I felt.
Or rather, how I should feel.
I wasn’t expected to be creative. Instead I was told what to do, in often entirely contradictory missives, from elders and professionals, and to do it well for the fear of what if. The motherland was a strange new territory. I felt myself lost and at sea. Uneasy in my own skin. I didn’t belong here.
I knew what a mother was supposed to be like, and spent many years trying to fit myself into this mold. But it was always an uncomfortable squeeze. Too many hard edges for my squishy body and big feelings. There wasn’t enough space for the “me” that I was in the mold that was motherhood. There were too many should and oughts constricting me. I was always too opinionated, too messy, too self-centered, too introverted, too overwhelmed…too contradictory. I was too much…or not enough.
As I could see it two ways lay ahead – keep it in – which is what mothers are supposed to do – martyr themselves to motherhood.
Or let it out.
Let it consume me…or let my roller-coaster of deep contradictory feelings find form and expression to ignite a fire that might light the way for others in the same position.
And so emerged my creative renaissance: painting, writing, blogging, crafting, editing, and every other form of self-expression I could find. It was entirely fueled by the intensity of motherhood – the tumult of love, joy, despair, grief, exhaustion, feelings of failure and glory, depression, and elation that filled my days and that I could find no other way of voicing.
For generations women have been shut down, and shut up. All that was required was the illusion of the perfect wife, the all-loving mother, the angel of the house. Not her inner reality. Simply a pleasant veneer which glossed over the contradictions, appetites, desires, heart breaks, yearnings, exhaustion and confusion of a woman’s inner life.
But things are shifting and changing. The veil of silence is lifting. As women’s voices, lives, emotions, creativity are being seen en masse for perhaps the first time in humanity, expressing the inner worlds which for so long have been hidden.
And from these broken places, these hidden places, from the darkness a new light shines – one of truth, of a more vibrant reality. These models of self-expression act as beacons for other women who had not fully seen or felt or dared voice their own inner worlds, suddenly find themselves seen and heard, often for the first time. And they in turn begin growing into their own skins a little more, filling their own forms, finding self-expression.
It is the end of an ice age, where women have been frozen, stunted, silenced, are beginning to thaw – their innate creativity blooming in the new warmth. Where will it lead us? What impact will it have on the next generation who are growing up in this new era? Only time will tell. But silence and shame are being cast aside. And surely we will all benefit.
Lucy H. Pearce
Lucy’s most recent book, Moods of Motherhood: The Inner Journey of Mothering charts the inner journey of motherhood, giving voice to the often nebulous, unspoken tumble of emotions that motherhood evokes: tenderness, frustration, joy, grief, anger, depression and love. She explores the taboo subjects of maternal ambiguity, competitiveness, and the quest for perfection, offering support, acceptance, and hope to mothers everywhere. This is a book full of Lucy’s trademark searing honesty and raw emotions, which have brought such a global following of mothers to her work. Click here and Lucy will send you a FREE SAMPLE right away!
Lucy is the author of four life-changing non-fiction books for women including the #1 Amazon bestsellers: The Rainbow Way: Cultivating Creativity in the Midst of Motherhood and Moon Time: A Guide to Celebrating Your Menstrual Cycle.
Former co-editor of JUNO magazine, she is the founder of Womancraft Publishing, which publishes transformational books by women, for women. She is passionate about sharing empowering women’s resources on The Happy Womb.com. She blogs on creativity, mindfulness, motherhood, and world changing over on Dreaming Aloud.net.
I am a 57-year old mother of seven beautiful children. Grandmother of three amazing granddaughters, a fourth on the way. I entered the corporate world 8 years ago as a means of supporting my family (divorced for 14 years now) and between mothering teens and adult children and grand babies, teaching, and working my full time job, my me time is limited to say the least and my creativity has suffered immensely. I was just chatting with a dear friend, mother and grandmother. ANd we were talking about the feelings of guilt mothers seem to be strapped with …well, forever. We feel the joy so deeply of our children’s successful moments, events etc, and we cringe and bite our lips and cry quiet tears when they are hurting, or making poor choices, or just experiencing growing pains. I obviously could write many books, and have, in my head, over hte last 35 years. I was a La Leche League leader for 20 years, and natural childbirth advocate…now that my daughters are having babies, I find myself wanting to get back in the ‘battle’ for change, fr respect for women and their bodies and YES! Their VOICE!.My mother, bless her wonderful being, was so silent about her frustrations with motherhood, doing what she was ‘supposed to do”, being who she was “supposed to be”…and of her eight daughters, seven of us are mothers and the ‘martyr’ patterns are really tough to break. I have heard my mother’s words come rom my mouth, I have lived in fear of releasing my voice. I am a mom and this is what moms do. we sacrifice everything for our children, we put ourselves last on the ‘to do’ list, we give and give and give, and cry alone, absorb all the heartache, feel guilty and responsible when our children make poor choices and we are voracious, enduring cheerleaders for even their tiniest achievements. And we apologize. over nad over and over. So I won’t apologize for the length of this comment. 🙂 I will just say I have no doubt it willb e an absolute pleasure to read your book. I will also pass along to my daughters my new knowledge that you exist and what a wonderful resource you are. 🙂 Namaste
Mary, you’re a winner! Please send your mailing address to Lucy by Monday evening (Dec 8): lucy [at] womancraftpublishing.com 🙂
Such a wonderful idea!
Looks like it maybe a fantastic book. I would have to say women have been blooming over and over again throughout the history of humanity.
The following words have been written by the author with bravado but she forgets the truth of women’s history. “The veil of silence is lifting. As women’s voices, lives, emotions, creativity are being seen en masse for perhaps the first time in humanity, expressing the inner worlds which for so long have been hidden.” She seems to ignore that the strong stories of the goddesses come from someplace, a time when women were in power and were the creators of society and the first planters of crops… I think the messages are good but the the words”first time in humanity” is a bit much.
The call for men to wake up and for shared power/ not power over each other is also what is needed. thanks.
My interest is definitely piqued. I have a toddler and am expecting our second child in a couple of months. The addition of “mother” to my roles has been challenging, and I’m trying to be myself and not what others expect. I’d love an honest perspective.
Chelsie, you’re a winner! Please send your mailing address to Lucy by Monday evening (Dec 8): lucy [at] womancraftpublishing.com 🙂
so nice to see the boundaries of what ‘mother’ means are being broken
Oh how much I, a mother of three dayughters, would Love and need to read this book!! So important! ❤️
Lotta, you’re a winner! Please send your mailing address to Lucy by Monday evening (Dec 8): lucy [at] womancraftpublishing.com 🙂
Thank you for entering, friends! Our winners are Lotta, Mary, and Chelsie. Please send your mailing address to Lucy by Monday evening (Dec 8): lucy [at] womancraftpublishing.com