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Cathy: Rebirth

Duck, NC, 1.14.2011

This time of year is so odd. For most of the Northern Hemisphere, and certainly for my own 40 years lived in New England constitution, the world lies most fallow, yet there are hints of the promise of spring. The renewal of the land.

In Ireland, it is the celebration of the birthing of the lambs, the burgeoning of dairy abundance, the harrowing of the fields. St. Brigid’s Day celebrates the creative fire that burns within all of us of poetry, childbirth and craftsmanship, esp of iron.

Chinese New Year is now, the time of the seedlings underground, and the promise of abundance crops. The sun is returning, and so the fire within burns a little brighter.

Now, when winter can be so brutal, we find signs in a random clear bright day that assures the sun has not forsaken us after all.

Here, in this most wintery winter since I’ve lived in Virginia, last week I saw robins flocking in the trees. A raven cackled at me from high up in a tree whose branches were tipped in buds. Some of my gardening friends reported daffodil sightings. Mine have not made an appearance.

This weekend I went out to a handful of events, obviously overscheduled. I missed spending time with my family, I missed the rarity of hours spent with Honey. But I took time to pay attention to myself at two different meditations, and to have fun with friends.

I wore myself out, also because once again Honey and I squeezed in a Home Depot date on Saturday afternoon, too. But I needed to take time to find my focus again and these meditations really worked. I found my personal strength and was reminded that my personal strength isn’t only for giving away to everyone else. I need to keep some reserves for myself in order to focus well on my writing and finish the manuscript.

I went through a period toward the end of 2010 in which I started taking better care of myself physically, but let it drop off again, various reasons, the main being that I am allergic to the first gym altogether. Then in joining the local Y, I found I was allergic to their workout room and their yoga classes were inconveniently scheduled during my precious writing time. And then it was too cold to consider waking up before dawn to go swim laps and freeze in the winter morning air with wet hair.

But now, it is beginning to warm up. I ache all over again when I wake up in the morning, and all day long. This ache will never completely go away, I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, and I am aging. I have a significant lack of collagen to take care of my muscles, even less now that I age. I am more prone to muscle injuries and not so great in the healing department. But when I take the time to exercise, whether I do laps in the pool, or walking around the neighborhood, it makes a huge difference. Not just in my muscles and posture, but in my mental and spiritual well-being.

The meditations and the game night Saturday with friends I rarely see, took me out of my daily rut and into my interior to wake up my creativity and sense of purpose.

Honey and I have planned and he started some spring household projects — mended the porch rail himself while I was out and about yesterday. And he did the taxes, which will net us a much-needed return. For this, I thank him. He’s my guy.

We’re going to build some storage solutions and a partition in Mr. Cynic’s room in order to move the boys in together, and move Toots into currently Captain Comic’s room. I’m going to milk paint some antique twin head and footboards for Toots, and sew new curtains for both rooms.

Honey and I agree it’s definitely time to move our little miss nearly three-year-old out of our room. That decision has definitely begun a sense of renewal for our relationship.

So you can see, not just this weekend, but leading up to it, I’ve been doing some harrowing of the fields of all the acreage of my life.

1. In writing, I am rewriting for the third time my little novel with the purpose in mind to send it out come spring.

2. Shifting around and taking care of the house.

3. Will also take care of Honey’s and my relationship.

4. The changing of the season is renewing my health needs, mentally, physically and spiritually, not just so I can take care of others and contribute more for their well-being — mainly I mean the kids, but that in taking care of my personal strength, I will be giving myself the gift of self-respect and confidence to be who I really am and accomplish what I set out to do. All of it, with a clear head.

Is any one else finding themselves in this place of assessment and focus on change for a better life?

[Cross-posted from Musings in Mayhem]

4 Comments Post a comment
  1. very thoughtful post. i’ve been in that place of assessment and need for change for a while now, but it’s often easier said than done, particularly when it comes to work situations, which realistically are out of my control since i can’t simply quit my job. there are many days when my juggle throws me over the top, and i have to accept that there is just so much time in the day, and the majority of my weekdays are taken up by the 8:30am to 5:30pm+ grind. i’ve applied for another faculty position which would give me much more time, so keep your fingers crossed for me. interviews will probably start in late february/early march. i know that i tend to take on a lot outside of work, but it’s what i do outside of work that truly makes me happy. what i do inside of work just puts food on the table.

    February 8, 2011
  2. please keep us posted on how that position turns out for you!!!

    I’ve been fairly absent around blogland for a while, except posting my own. i am trying really hard to be sure to finish this book for spring submissions. some days are better than others re: the editing process. today was a good one, if a bit tedious.

    i am seriously considering more income options at this point and may have come up with a couple of ideas today…some more tutoring (i have one student at the moment) and pushing blog writing into a more professionally based realm. so i hear you on the figuring out job issue, kelly! good luck!

    February 8, 2011
  3. I feel like we will be coming into this season very soon. My hubby came home on leave this past week and we can feel the separateness of our lives with having to endure so much time apart and with another 6 months in front of us. So for sure your post is helping me to take stock in the reality that change is very INTENTIONAL.

    February 24, 2011
  4. robin, i’m glad this spoke to you as it revealed another area that needs attention in your life. i see what you go through as a military family a lot where i live, in hampton roads, va, the largest concentration of us miiltary in the world with several bases within spitting distance of my house. I have many dear friends who send each other off, sometimes at a moment’s notice, and sometimes having to suddenly pick up and move the whole family. i watch it, but can only imagine the emotional toll of holding down the homefort alone. i have been a single mom for a handful of years, but my understanding in the military family, is that the reentry adjustment can be just as hard, if not significantly harder after a deployment than managing a family alone.

    February 25, 2011

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