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Cathy: Back to the book

I have received excellent notes from someone in a position to discuss observatories in a way that I need to fill the hole in my manuscript. For this, I am extremely thankful, and feeling the impetus to write that one hole in the book.

I basically have not been able or free to write or edit in the manuscript since my retreat in January and my surgery in February. The fact that my toddler is way too busy now at times when other than her, I have the house to myself, and therefore should have no distractions… Yeah, right, that’s a good one!

So much for writing during morning naps. Buh-bye! Actually that was gone about six months ago.

Then, two other things put a kink into the process: My mother-in-law started a diet support group with her exercise buddies on the same day as my critique group; and my critique group bumped the timeslot from 12-2pm to 10-12pm. Same time as her regular exercise classes she has committed herself to for over three years now.

This prompted me to start seeking inexpensive daycare services to try to cover Toots for at least two half-days a week, so I would have time to write and time twice per month for the critique group. She turns 2 on April 1. All the basic church basement type preschools in the area start at 2.5 years. Otherwise, it’s parent accompanied playgroups or expensive daycare centers. I felt really SOL. But I have committed to putting my writing on the map. Think, think, think.

So I got a message late Sunday night to request a change for this week’s group meeting to Thursday from the usual Tuesday meeting. And it was to be a writing rather than a critique meeting. I was half-ecstatic. Only half, because while it did not conflict with my mil’s diet group, it did conflict with her usual exercise classes.

Yesterday morning, I shored myself up and asked if she would mind watching Toots on Thursday morning instead of going to her class.

Not that she typically says no, but it’s not like I typically feel I can ask, because I want to respect what is important to her. She said sure.

Maybe a week by week check-in is what it will take to get my writing on the chart, to coordinate around a household of six including toddler. At least for now. And in six months, maybe I can start her in a regular preschool, if we can figure it into the non-existent part of the budget.

Baby steps. For now, I will write, in the committed company of other writers on Thursday for two hours. That is two hours of writing I did not have before. One week at a time.

Crossposted from Cathy’s personal blog.

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  1. Let’s hear it for baby steps. My daughters are now 17 and 20, but your dilemma of how to fulfill on your different commitments transcends the details of circumstances. Thanks for the reminder that carving out precious occasions is where it’s at, as opposed to throwing up one’s hands in despair and frustration and waiting until life “cooperates.” Hurrah for you, and thanks for sharing this.

    March 22, 2010
  2. thanks, deborah, i honestly hadn’t thought of it quite as enthusiastically as you just did!

    (btw, i have an almost 15 yo and 11.5 yo, too.)

    update: since this originally posted on my blog last week, i had the writers’ group and it has really spurred me on. i got a good start on the editing process on my character merge problem and that will naturally lead me into the missing chapter. wish me luck!

    March 22, 2010
  3. It is all about being kind to yourself-your life truly is not your own – at least while that babe is still so long. I made a major move myself to another country about 2 months ago and it is like starting all over-finding someone I can trust to watch my little sweetie. But it is the life I love and it (motherhood) is truly what inspires the work we do. s the tension is there-but it is a good one (most times!).

    March 24, 2010
  4. ah, yes, this too shall pass…she’s already growing faster than i can comprehend. soon she’ll be graduating high school and i’ll have al the time in the world to myself, right?! 😉

    March 24, 2010

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