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Cathy: Weekend Update–the usual frustrations and a dose of sunshine

So many things interfered with so many plans I had this weekend. I won’t bore you with too many details, but while Baby C took a nap, and Honey took care of things he needed to at home (some side job work, some gutter cleaning), I grabbed one highly reluctant son and one enthusiastic one to head up to the other end of the town to the historic district and York River Beach on Saturday. The sun was out for the first time in weeks. We dipped our toes in the water. We walked on the storm barrier rocks. We sat and lay on the sand, dug holes and let the sun warm us like we hadn’t since last August. Aaaaah….

04040914471The teen was acting a bit anti-social (I had interrupted his very important tv viewing agenda, and his afternoon shower before another sleepover at the fellowship) but I think he enjoyed himself in his own reluctant way. S thoroughly enjoyed kicking jellyfish away, digging a hole to semi-bury himself, and climbing and finding rocks and shells. I soaked up some rays, watched my guys be themselves, stood up straight without the baby on my hip and enjoyed the view. The sun, breeze and water are the best ingredients to rejuvenate my spirit after so much time spent indoors. People were all over the pier, walking dogs, cycling, sailing in the distance. It was a beautiful day.

0404091439Sometimes, no matter how much laundry, lawn mowing, reorganizing, cleaning, etc., needs to be done, you just have to take advantage of the sun while it shines. And it helped me love the boys just a little more again – even if from 50 feet away. Maybe it was the distance that made the love happen. If K were grumbling next to me the whole time, I’m sure I would have grumbled back.

Later, we dropped him off and did the weekend home repairer’s trip to Lowe’s bathroom and plant departments. We bought a vertical yew for my piney mulch shady corner, and I had the sudden inspiration for a Jane magnolia tree I saw. I don’t wear much jewelry myself, so my indulgences in that regard go to adorning my yard.

On Sunday, we had hoped to take care of some things we didn’t on Saturday, but Baby C decided that steamrolling her parents all night was a better idea than sleep, so we woke up late. Since I had to pick up K, I had to go to service, therefore nothing got done. We were supposed to meet some other asperger’s families at Busch Gardens for the afternoon. Well, we made it to the park an hour late and without the cellphone (mine) with the phone number of the organizer in it, so we just did our own thing, enjoyed the afternoon and hoped we’d meet with them. We never did. Baby C had more fun on this one picnic table [below] than the rest of us did on the rides. She played “up and down,” danced, and smiled at everyone in the vicinity. She can be quite the charmer these days. Alas, this weekend, I kept walking out the door with no good camera, so these are all cell phone shots. But they still look fine to me.

04050915451So, no writing in the manuscript, even though I longhand wrote two big ideas for it in the past week. I’ll say that counts, though I still need to plug them into the manuscript and flesh them out a bit. No yard work on my part, except for buying trees. The summer clothes exchange is in the upstairs hall, and bathroom fixtures are all over the bathroom. Baby C’s home done one year portraits are put off for another week until we can set up the studio in the living room. But I had plenty of fun in the sun with my family. And that’s more important than griping about what didn’t happen from The List.

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  1. Great post, Cathy! In my old age, I’m finding more and more excuses for why it’s okay to put the writing off a little. It sounds like you had a beautiful soul-recharging weekend, and two big ideas, long-handed or not, are still big ideas.

    What you said about your outing with the boys helping you love them a little more really resonated with me. Sam is going through a not-altogether-loveable phase right now with lots of tantrums and whining, and I find myself trying desperately to tune all of his noise out instead of focusing in on him more (which is probably what I ought to be doing, as it would eliminate his need to get my attention). This week he is out of preschool for spring break, and I have been positively dreading having Sir Whine-a-lot home with me all day, every day, for seven straight days.

    But today, even though it was only 44 degrees here, and even though it required schlepping him and John to the park and subjecing myself to purposeful chaos, I took him anyway to the season opening party of George the Train, a mini railroad in a local park. I was surprised at how lovely, charming, well-behaved and un-whiney he was. And I was reminded again that we all feel a lot more loved with some undivided attention and special bonding time, even grumpy two-and-a-half year olds.

    April 7, 2009
  2. Cathy #

    ah, brittany, tuning out the noise has saved me from infanticidal feelings for many years! and i wish a train would cheer up the teen like it used to! i promised him i will take him out sometime this week, alone for sushi, as we’re on spring break, too.

    i was grumpy for The List not happening in my time, but i finally let it go for a change and enjoyed the brief sunshine.

    April 7, 2009
  3. “Sometimes, no matter how much laundry, lawn mowing, reorganizing, cleaning, etc., needs to be done, you just have to take advantage of the sun while it shines”–my thoughts exactly. someday is today. 🙂

    April 7, 2009
  4. wait a minute…i just realized brittany said “in my old age” in her comment. sheesh….give me a break. 🙂

    April 7, 2009
  5. Cathy #

    thanks, kelly, and brittany, i didn’t say thanks before! glad you could relate.

    April 7, 2009
  6. Cathy #

    lol! yeah, i got a kick out of that one, too! me and my achy hips and and back…

    April 7, 2009
  7. Kristine #

    I’m glad you got out in the sunshine and enjoyed time with your kids. Getting out and enjoying each other is therapy in its best form.

    Lists be damned, is what I say! There will always be plenty of time for that stuff, anyway.

    Your post is a great reminder that with this upcoming warm, beautiful season (although right now it’s SNOWING outside my window), we all need to get out and just chill for a while.

    April 7, 2009
  8. Cathy #

    lol! unfortunately i say lists be damned a bit too much…thanks, kristine, and catch some sun when you can!

    April 7, 2009
  9. They told us on the news last night that it was currently warmer in Minnesota than here. Now that’s just sad.

    April 8, 2009
  10. Cathy #

    well, they generally have a tough long winter, so they deserve a break…

    April 8, 2009
  11. Jen #

    coming late to the party, but wanted to say I really enjoyed your post, Cathy! Sounds like a beautiful day!

    April 10, 2009

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