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Kelly: Someday WAS Today

Yes, Miranda, someday WAS today. But first let me back up a moment to give you a little perspective why today became so important.

Saturday morning as I was driving around the block three times near Garnet and Gold in Tallahassee trying to find a place to park so I could pick up a new t-shirt for the FSU Homecoming game that night, I got a call from my best friend, Becky. Becky and I have been friends since 9th grade English with Mr. McDonald. We sat behind Wally Rakestraw and both had a crush him (on which Becky’s brother Robert commented at Becky’s wedding rehearsal: “Wally Rakestraw!!?? Damn you girls for always going for the jocks!”). Becky and I went through high school and college together, became sorority sisters in college, and are still best friends 20 years out of college. When she called that morning, she said, “Well maybe I shouldn’t tell you this right now since you are driving.” With a comment like that, now you know I really had to know, so she told me.

At 9 pm the night before, one of our sorority sisters in Tampa had a knock on her front door. It was a State Trooper. Her daughter, her 17-year-old daughter on her first trip away from home without her parents, had just been killed in a car accident. She was on her way to Tallahassee with three friends for the very same game that prompted my t-shirt search; the other three girls survived the crash but were in ICU. I pulled into a random parking lot and just stopped. What do you do in that moment? What can you possibly say? No words seem to fit. All I wanted to do was hang up the phone and call my own children at home, just to hear their voices. I cannot imagine the devastation our friend’s family must be feeling. My heart and prayers go out to them.

Which brings me back to the importance of today…. That moment crystallized for me that someday truly is today, and that you never know what that someday, this today, that tomorrow is going to bring you. And for that reason, I realized that every moment, big or small, must be cherished. Today was one of those moments. It was the day that all the kindergarten parents were invited to come to school and have a Thanksgiving lunch with their children. Before Saturday morning, I hadn’t really thought about going. Work is very hectic right now, and I have to travel to Orlando tomorrow and Friday for a meeting. But I went. And as I walked down the hall to the cafeteria, Olivia spotted me and yelled “Hey, there’s my Mama!” to all her friends. When I got in there, I saw that Sarah was still in line and hadn’t spotted me yet, so I told Liv to find us a seat and got in line. I saw Sarah walk out of the serving area with her little tray in her little hands, looking so smart and so grown up, and my eyes filled up with tears. When she saw me, she almost dropped her tray and yelled, “Hey, Mama!” So we sat down. And we ate. We ate terrible elementary school cafeteria turkey and dressing, box mashed potatoes and pre-packaged fruit cocktail. But it was one of those little moments to cherish. It was the day that someday did become today. It was the start of a lot of somedays that will become todays. When will your somedays become today?

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  1. This is just horrific, Kelly. I can’t even comprehend things like this. I’m so, so sorry for your friend.

    All we can take away is yes, we only have today. This very moment is all you can count on–so you’d better make it count.

    How wonderful that you were able to apply that perspective right away, and make the time to cherish your sweet daughters at their school Thanksgiving. You just made a memory for them. Maybe that should be a guiding principle for each of us as mothers: every day, create a memory. It might be something small — reading a book or a tickle session — but a real connection that goes into the bucket of memories. None of us can know how many memories we’ll have the good fortune to create.

    November 19, 2008
  2. Good for you, Kelly! I can tell you about EVERY SINGLE TIME my mother ate lunch with me in elementary school, it was that important to me.

    November 19, 2008
  3. cathy #

    oh my, really, truly sorry about your friend’s daughter. terrible. i’m glad you took that as motivation for time spent with your girls and to cherish it as much as they do.

    makes me glad i plopped on the couch with the kids this afternoon, boozling baby belly, and hanging with the guys. i didn’t write, but i made time for the babes: big, medium – with a box on his head – and small.

    November 19, 2008
  4. thanks guys. i even took another moment today to attend my girls 1st nine weeks kindergarten awards ceremony this morning. creating memories, miranda. i like that…

    November 20, 2008
  5. a just got a note i wanted to share with you all. i was copied on an email one of my former students and now close friends sent out to a large group of her family and friends. she reads my blog regularly and this was in response to my “someday WAS today” post. she’s 22. good example that you never know what effect your writing is going to have on someone else. i had tears in my eyes when i read this:

    Hey Friends….

    Today when I got back from lunch I did my daily read of the Happy Shack Design Blog; written by my dear mentor and friend Kelly Warren. I recommend the blog to all of you and her jewelry! Kelly has such a great way of putting ideas, thoughts, lessons, and memories in words. Her blogs are ALWAYS from the heart…! I have included below the blog I read this afternoon. I think each of you should read it…even though I don’t have children the message of this blog spoke to me in many ways…! Please take the time to read this blog…we are all busy at work or at home trying to get ready for the holiday season that is upon us…but I promise you it is worth the read.

    We all waste so much time on things like being bitter at our friends and family for what we consider “stupid” decisions. We get so caught up in our jobs and we bring our stresses home with us. We let unimportant people and unimportant things become the priority in our daily schedule! I myself am guilty of holding a grudge at a particular person in my family because I do not like some of the decisions he has made.

    I have realized over the past few months…life is too short to have to “try” to be happy. I had to share this with the people who mean something to me…I am sure you all will see why this blog meant so much to me! I hope you all know how much I appreciate having you in my life…and that I am so GRATEFUL you share this life with me! =-)

    Kelly- Thank you for writing and reminding us to live our lives….you are such a WONDERFUL person, I am so glad I have you in my life!

    November 20, 2008
    • chris #

      Kelly i was goood friends with Wally Rakestraw!I went to OP not Middleburg. Sorry to hear about your friends loss 😦

      February 8, 2010
  6. cathy #

    wow, kelly. i may have to share this, too….

    November 20, 2008
  7. you are welcome to, cathy. that’s why i left her name out of it.

    November 20, 2008

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